Sex and Psyche

"Well, Kahr is a psychotherapist and he conducted the largest ever survey of men and women’s sexual fantasies in Britain. On the one hand it tells us that it’s OK that the best sex is in our heads and the originality and imagination of people is amazing – the creativity that exists in the sexual hinterland! Ninety per cent of us have regular sexual fantasies that we never reveal, and that tells us that it’s not how long you can manipulate a clitoris for but it’s about your whole upbringing and your psychopathology. He shows how sexual behaviour and your attitude to sex and relationships with someone else can be so deeply influenced in ways you’re never aware of. Of course, once you have an element of self-awareness you can unlock these sexual taboos. It’s also a really raunchy read. It’s unbelievable what people come up with. It makes me feel so boring."